Most commonly used statement in English (also in other languages I’m sure!). But very rarely meant.
HOW ARE YOU ?
We ask this question to start a conversation or to acknowledge the other.
These are 3 little precious words that became kind of important during my stay in Jaipur. Suddenly these words carried meaning that I hadn’t known. Usually, I dodge this question with answers like:
But these were usually never true.
A dear friend (sister in Christ) asked me this question – I dodged this question with the usual replies. But she lingered on to know the real me. She smiled knowingly and replied – ‘I know you Gracy! What are you thinking?’
I was so surprised. Nobody could make out if I am thinking or sad or happy or worried or afraid – behind the flowery curtain of a big bright smile that I always carry. At that very moment I realized that she meant those 3 littte words.
Time and again I would meet her, sometimes more than twice in a week, and she would ask me the same question in various different ways, and when I dodged the question (which I tried to do quite often 😉 ) she would look deep into my eyes and tell me that I was worried.
I did not know her long enough, for her to tell me these intricate details about myself. But she became very important person of my life (quite soon). I started looking forward to her meeting. We never had long hours to meet, sometimes only the brief 5 minutes, in which she managed to touch my soul deep and clear.
Sometimes, I did not even get to meet her – in public gatherings. But she without fail would brightly blink from far away – conveying her 3 little precious words. These words though sometimes said sometimes not, but were always meant deeply. She taught me to care deeply even in brief moments.
Recently, I left Jaipur and stared working in Udaipur (India). But this lesson always remains in me. The 3 little precious words, hang in my memory – inspiring me to give without counting. To care selflessly.
so here are 2 little words from me
How often do you mean your salutations? Do you really care?